Male Cougars are Old Wolves

When it comes to the older woman with a younger man, especially celebrities the world literally goes viral with the ridiculous ‘shock’ of the ‘age difference’, like with my featured image of Kylie and Andres, this difference was only 10 years; something similar with a man being only 10 years older, would not even make the news at all!  As for the ‘Cougar’ term well I  believe that it’s hypocritical, when there is no such term for a male doing the same thing, why do they feel the need to ‘label’ women in this way is beyond me. They should refer to men perhaps as a pack of ‘grey wolves’, especially when their age gap of preferred women’s age can be as great and more like 30 to 40 years and entirely gross… I might say!

Australia doesn’t dodge the bullet of hypocrisy either, I was a member of a dating site once (yes, past tense lol) and had been for a while, I’ll give you two examples of the most ridiculous situations I came across on this topic.

  1. The first was that I had been communicating with a guy for quite a time, when we decided to meet up as it was quite a distance we hadn’t rushed to the idea of meeting beforehand.  Well, we had set the time and place and then I get a message from him at practically the last minute “would you like another picture of me”? While I was a bit confused, I said “Ok”, with which he replied “Let’s forget about it then”… Hilarious right? In his online picture he was standing there with a hat and sunglasses, so yep… I guess he was bald and/or not very confident!
  2. This one is even more on topic: This particular dating site had a ‘Social Event’ for various areas on an ongoing basis, I’d never actually checked it out at the link. I go and click on that link at some stage.. and to my absolute HORROR there it states the age groups for women and men DIFFERENTLY for each event, for example (it was a long time ago) something like Event 1: for Women 22 to 35 years old and Men 35 to 45 years old… Yuck!!! and how ‘off’, needless to say, I even  dumped my membership immediately after reading this.

The most intriguing thing I realized very quickly was that with the male profiles, how many had listed their age ‘preferences’  maximum usually, as much as 10 years younger than themselves! The minimum you may ask… usually none or 20. lol Are they that delusional to think that if a celebrity can do it so can I? Also read the funniest comment just now, it went:

“I haven’t found a solution for this. How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? She would need to be 36 to 38. Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.  I know that such a person exists but can’t find a good avenue to find her. I am fairly well to do and well educated”. Have a giggle but he did get some good advice like: “………Next, since you can’t convince someone to date an older man, stop trying. To find out who IS interested…….”

If I could I would tell him… well shucks, I guess you left it a little late to have kids, and you should probably have thought about it earlier in life, if it was important to you. As most guys run around ‘sowing their wild oats’… such a stupid phrase, I know and very old fashioned, but I really didn’t know how else to ‘put it’ politely enough! So yes, they are all out for the short / casual or no commitment type of relationships, which as they get older kind of ‘blows up in their face’, so to speak! 

It’s a common cliche that older men chase much younger women, but charts from the book “Dataclysm” provide real evidence that men at every age are consistently most attracted to women in their early 20s.

“Dataclysm” author and OkCupid co-founder Christian Rudder uses numbers from the dating site to show how women and men differ in the ages of the people they’re attracted to.

Men, regardless of their age, tend to say women in their early 20s look best, while women are most attracted to men their own age.

Chart of older guy / young woman

See more of the original story at The Australian Business Insider

The “sexual invisibility” felt by many older men is really about becoming less attractive to young women. For too many straight men, it seems, the sexual validation of their female peers is less ego-soothing than the kind that they believe can only come from much younger women.  Men fight the “slow slide into invisibility” with frantic denial, a denial that manifests itself in a compulsive need to pursue women substantially younger than themselves, all the while pleading to be seen as atypical for their age.

Related Articles:

Article at The Mirror UK on Celebrity Women and Younger Men

WordPress Article: “The List of Male Privileges” (another viewpoint)

 The Guy’s Guide to Feminism

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Sexism Still Exists

Unfortunately, sexism still exists – and there are some examples of casual sexism you should make yourself aware of. We women have made some huge leaps in the last few decades – we’re on a ‘somewhat’ more equal footing to men although there’s a huge way to go yet. Some of us have been embarking on high-powered, high-flying careers, others find it harder to crack the ‘male dominated’ careers.  In sales and marketing in Australia I can tell you now, that there are some Sales Representative / Account Manager roles, that as a woman you’ll just never get. (I hesitate to ‘name company names’ lol) A few for example though… DO love to give their flashy company cars to men, with the striking green V.. or the world renowned ‘red n white’ swirl!! They’ll never let a female ‘at it’ ha!

Do most people recognize sexism in their daily lives? And what does it take to get them to shake their sexist beliefs?

In a study titled “Seeing the Unseen” psychologists Janet Swim of Pennsylvania State University and Julia Becker of Philipps University Marburg, Germany, set out to answer these questions.

Over the course of three separate, seven-day-long trials, Swim and Becker asked 120 college undergraduates (82 women and 38 men, ranging from 18 to 26 years old, some from the U.S., some from Germany) to record in a journal sexist comments they encountered on a daily basis. According to Swim, she and Becker hoped to determine whether forcing people to pay attention to less obvious forms of sexism could decrease their endorsement of sexist beliefs.

During the trials, subjects were instructed to note instances of sexist behavior toward women, ranging from unwanted sexual attention to blatantly sexist jokes and derogatory comments.

They were also asked to record subtler actions that many would consider harmless: men calling women “girls, ” complimenting them on stereotypically feminine behavior and sheltering them from more “masculine” tasks. Swim and Becker described this less obvious sexism to participants as “benevolent sexism,” a term coined by psychologists Peter Glick and Susan Fiske in a 1996 study to refer to “a paternalistic attitude towards women that idealizes them affectionately,” Glick told The Huffington Post.

On average, subjects recorded two derogatory terms, two sexist comments, 1.5 expressions of negative beliefs about women and 1.5 expressions of seemingly positive but in fact sexist thoughts about women each week. Swim recalled that one female participant reported a complete stranger had walked up to her in a laundromat and asked if she would fold his laundry because she’d be better at it.

This kind of sexism is “ambiguous,” Swim said, and “people don’t know if they’re kidding, so we discount them one after another.”

“If you document it and are confronted by a group of instances of sexism, then people start to see the unseen,” she added.

The prevalence of sexism — benevolent or hostile — was not the study’s primary focus, nor its major reveal. The more significant finding had to do with how men and women’s beliefs about sexism changed after they became aware of its prevalence. In addition to asking participants to record instances of sexism, researchers also evaluated the degree to which subjects tolerated sexist behavior.

Researchers found that after recording the sexist incidents they observed, women were more likely to deem the behavior less acceptable. Men, on the other hand, continued to endorse sexist behavior even after becoming more conscious of it.

But when asked to empathize with the female targets of specific sexist incidents, male participants were less likely to sanction blatant sexism.  Continue Reading at Huffington Post

Examples of Common Sexism You Should Know

Did You Know?

Four in ten businesses worldwide have no women in senior management. This shouldn’t be a surprise given the way many countries feel about women in the workplace. Here in the United States, however, women still feel the stress of trying to break into upper management, with 93% of the 439 senior women executives surveyed by Korn/Ferry International in 1992 feeling that a glass ceiling for women still existed. Yet new studies report that women outnumber men as managers in fields like human resources, health administration and education–perhaps stemming from reports that many businesses have seen a direct financial impact from hiring women. It hasn’t changed much, if you ask me even now in 2015.

Women earned less than men in 99% of all occupations. In virtually every field that women choose to enter, they can expect to earn less over their lifetime than their male counterparts. This means that over 47 years of full-time work, this gap amounts to an estimated loss in wages for women of $700,000 for high school graduates, $1.2 million for college grads, and $2 million for professional school grads–a staggering amount.  from the College Times

From the ABC ~ Sad, sad news indeed!

Earlier this week the Federal Government announced changes to gender reporting guidelines for businesses.

For businesses with 100 employees or more there will still be required gender and pay reporting, but the Government is planning to scrap more stringent workplace gender equality reporting introduced under the former Labor government, which would have included recording the gender of people applying for jobs and chief executive salaries.

The Government said it was a decision made in consultation with business and that some reporting requirements were too onerous and might not necessarily contribute to gender equality.

But Ms Kearney said employers must be required to keep the data in order to erode the pay disparity.

“To look at a culture in an organisation to tackle something like this, we need data and the Workplace Gender Equality Agency recommended some data collection processes that would help, but we have just seen this Government decide to water down those requirements,” she said.

“Watering down data collection requirements is going to be, I think, a major step backwards in closing the gender pay gap.

“We’ll lose a good opportunity to change the culture in corporations around this issue.”

 

The Gender Pay Gap

The gender pay gap has hit a record high of 18.8 per cent according to Bureau of Statistics (ABS) figures, prompting calls for the Federal Government to reverse the upward trend.

Men now earn almost $300 more per week than women based on the average weekly earnings for full-time workers.

The latest figures represent the biggest gender pay gap since the ABS began collecting the data in 1994.

Australian Council of Trade Unions (ACTU) president Ged Kearney said while the data reflected pay across the board, women could be paid less in the same jobs as men.

Women also made up the majority of workers in some industries where earnings were low.

The latest figures compared the average weekly full-time earnings of men – $1,587.50 – and found women were about $298 worse off.

Via ABC Feb, 2015

The more education a woman has, the greater the disparity in her wages. This certainly doesn’t mean women should shy away from professional positions, but they should be aware that they may have to battle harder for equal pay. Women in professional specialty occupations were found to earn just 72.7% of what men in the same position earned, and women in upper-level executive, administrative and managerial occupations earned even less at 72.3%. Read more at College Times

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Australian Public Service Commission and Promoting Workforce Diversity

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Forty-six percent of women believe they’ve experienced sex discrimination in the workplace, according to a survey from 2013.

Via Catalyst >>

Welcome to my new blog!

All about female rights / discrimination against, etc.. mainly brought about by a few occurrences of late. I’ll go into them in the next post, meanwhile here are some facts.

Women in today’s society have all the equality they could ever need, right? Wrong.

‪#‎InternationalWomensDay‬ is still needed to motivate change, at home and abroad. Some of these statistics put into sharp relief just how far we still have to go.

Violence

Globally, about one in three women will be beaten or raped during their lifetime. About 44 per cent of all UK women have experienced either physical or sexual violence since they were 15-years-old. Britain ranks among the worst countries in Europe when it comes to women being violently abused.

On average, 30% of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their partner.

38 per cent of all murders of women worldwide are committed by a woman’s intimate partner.

A UN report said 99.3% of women and girls in Egypt had been subjected to sexual harassment.

Marriage

Around 14 million girls, some as young as eight years old, will be married in 2014.

An estimated 1.2m children are trafficked into slavery each year; 80 per cent are girls.

In 10 countries around the world women are legally bound to obey their husbands

Only 76 countries have legislation that specifically addresses domestic violence – and just 57 of them include sexual abuse.

Working rights

In the UK, the gender pay gap stands at 15%, with women on average earning £5,000 less a year than their male colleagues. The disparity is even greater in part time jobs, going up to 35 per cent.

Globally only a 24 per cent of senior management roles are now filled by women.

The Equalities and Human Rights Commission estimates it will take 70 years at the current rate of progress to see an equal number of female and male directors of FTSE 100 companies.

This hurts everyone. The gender gap in certain industries is even more apparent and damaging. Zemach Getahun estimates that closing the gender gap in agriculture could reduce the number of hungry people in the world by 12-17 per cent.